We're Vanessa + Xander.

Hey there!

We're the wife-and-husband team behind the New York Times Best Seller, Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life. 

Together we've built a community of over a million people who turn to us for practical, powerful, and laugh-out-loud relatable advice for keeping the spark alive no matter how long they've been together.

Because at the end of the day, isn’t intimacy the whole point?

Since you found us through the podcast (welcome, friend!), we wanted to give you a few free goodies to start turning up the heat right away. 🔥

We're Vanessa + Xander.

Hey there!

We're the wife-and-husband team behind the New York Times Best Seller, Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life. 

Together we've built a community of over a million people who turn to us for practical, powerful, and laugh-out-loud relatable advice for keeping the spark alive no matter how long they've been together.

Because at the end of the day, isn’t intimacy the whole point?

Since you found us through the podcast (welcome, friend!), we wanted to give you a few free goodies to start turning up the heat right away. 🔥

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